A book offering solutions for perplexed mothers and fathers
Many parents regard themselves as mirrors reflecting their children. When the child disappoints, they blame themselves. Or else they set themselves unreasonably high standards, believing that if they can embody perfection then their child will not err. Yet in a world that is changing around us so quickly, with such abrupt shifts taking place in society, many parents find it difficult to adapt – let alone teaching their children to adapt.
This book has a message for these parents: don’t be so hard on yourselves. Parents must be imperfect if they are to withstand the many inevitable bumps and jolts on the road to maturity.
Lo I-Chun draws on her experience with her own daughter, which taught her that a back-and-forth dialogue is far more important than one-way instruction, and granted her insight into the most common flashpoints of parent-child conflict. She suggests the kind of question that will encourage the child to voice their innermost thoughts, thus allowing you to understand the motives that lie behind their action, and to help them in the process of shaping their view of the world. Conflict itself needs not be a problem, if effective communication can lead to resolution.
After spending a career handling media and PR, Lo I-Chun has now forged a new method of communication between parent and child. This book was built out of her conversations with her daughter, supplemented with her reflections on the problem of childrearing, in the hope that readers would come to see the communicative logic underpinning their dialogue.